The Courage To Be Disliked - Japanese Self Help Book Review

The Courage To Be Disliked – Japanese Self Help Book Review

Japanese literature has countless self-help books. The philosophies of Japanese authors are liked by people all around the world. Modern authors are still writing self-help books that could help people to solve modern problems. One of the books I’ve got to review today is The Courage To Be Disliked. The title of the book gives a hint about it. Fumitake Koga and Ichiro Kishimi wrote this book. They both are Japanese writers. This book was one of the successful Japanese self-help books. And people around the world appreciated the philosophies of the authors.

I was curious about the book and started going inside it. In this article, I will be providing some key takeaways from the book. Here in the following, you will also find a short of the authors of this book. And in the end, we will watch out for some ratings and reviews of the book.

About the Author

Two authors write the book The Courage To Be Disliked. The name of those authors is Fumitake Koga and Ichiro Kishimi. They both are Japanese in nationality. Ichiro Kishimi was born in 1956, and he is currently 65 years of age. He has completed his philosophy from Kyoto University. He is an author, a philosopher, an Adlerian psychologist, and a translator of English and German Language. This book is one of his best works. He also wrote another book named The Courage To Be Happy.

Another author of the book Fumitake Koga was born in 1973. Fumitake Koga is an award-winning writer and author. He wrote many bestselling books like The Courage To Be Disliked, The Courage To Be Happy, etc. They both did really amazing work together, and the readers appreciated them well.

Inside the Book

The book The Courage To Be Disliked was published at the end of 2013. It is more likely a psychological book that has modern philosophical thoughts. One of the authors is a professional psychologist and also a philosopher. The book has a glimpse of Alderian Philosophy. There are so many takeaways you can get from the book. But I’m giving some key takeaways I got from the book.

Our Life is Decided Here and Now

This book teaches us that the most important time we have is the present moment. Often we get lost in the past, or even we are tensed about the future. Your past should not negatively affect your present moment. This book teaches us not to be worried about the future nor the past. The past does not exist anymore; many of us don’t realize it. One of the things about Adlerian philosophy is not to be traumatized about the past. This book has a glimpse of Adlerian philosophy. But I think some things are oversimplified while talking about the past. But that’s my personal opinion.


Emotions are what we feel about any actions around us. Some emotions like anger, disgust, anxiety makes our life miserable. The book teaches us how we can master our emotions in order not to be controlled by them. Our emotions should not control us; we should not give our emotions to the driving seat by our emotions. Emotion should not be a driven power towards any negativity. The book teaches us that the first thing about controlling our emotions is to take responsibility for it. If you were over anger at any situation, take responsibility for it. Then decide you will control it or not.

Denying the Recognition Desire

The desire to do something and get recognized by everyone won’t make u happy for a long time. If you worry about recognition, it means you are just doing it for some people or some awards. This book teaches us to be a quiet competitor. We should not wait for the award to make ourselves happy. We should enjoy the process, and this book says that our reward is the learning process. Not the award or recognition. Because people forget, our reward should be the learning process itself and the self-fulfillment after achieving it.


This book can be one of the best choices for you if you are searching for a Japanese self-help book. This is a book with modern philosophical thoughts and psychological ideas. The reviews and ratings of this book are also very decent. 89% of Google users liked this book. This book got 4.1 ratings out of 5 in Goodreads. Also got 4.7 in Four Minute Books. In Audible.Com, this book got 4.6 out of 5. The score says how people around the world liked this book.


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